Life’s Too Short!
I have had a few friends have relationship problems expressing that they did not know what to do. One had recently been dumped by an honorable man, the other is not sure of keeping her marriage.
There comes a point in your life when you have to stop asking others what makes you happy and depend on your on judgment for sound advice. When it comes to break ups, I believe that after a certain age they should be familiar enough to know that everything happens for a reason and they once a relationship is over that you will survive. The best thing in any situation is to love your self.
Instead of focusing on the hurt and pain look for the lesson that needs to be learned from the experience. Don’t ever blame yourself even if you find fault. Know that this is something about you. The one thing i told this woman is that she should realize that she is making better choices when it comes to men because he was mature enough to tell you what is going on, how he felt and execute what he thought was best.
I told her to pat herself on the back, dust herself off and shrug off the hurt and find someone new. Life is too short to be sad on someone that’s not with you. I told her to look deeper inside herself for a man that better compliments her but first she needs to look inside herself to see what kind of woman she actually is.
For the second woman on the verge of divorce, she’s been miserable for about four years. I told her to look into herself and find what she needs from her because the fact is, if you are not happy with someone then there’s no need to stay. Time passes by quickly and in a blink of an eye tomorrow can be another four years… seperate and work on you to see where this person fits in your life.
The point being that only you can truly make yourself happy. Don’t waste time with someone that isn’t.